Saturday 13 April
The day for driving back to Jozi dawns beautiful and dewy and the horses are looking ace, and I realise that the plughole effect is kicking in: things are changing, there is too much to do in too little time, I don't know which way's up, I can't get any purchase anywhere, I am hurtling around, spinning in infinity (with thanks to Paul Simon). There is going to be the tarmacced silence of the car and then a whirl, a hurtle, a race to the end, aware that I'll be failing people, not doing things, forgetting things while desperately trying to remember them, and trying to forget things because remembering them will cost me too much. We don't really want to leave, we want to investigate this area. We are about an hour from Durban and I long to drive down there, so long is it since I arrived - a whole three months - and so fleeting was my distracted visit to that city, which I remember from my first time here, when I was seven. It is a slower, more gentle place that Joburg. I love Joburg, but Joburg means leaving and Durban means arriving.
And yet we are still attempting to live, we are still making contact with those we meet, arguably my favourite thing to do with Bartelt. For example, we just pop in to pay the guy who runs the B&B with is wife, and of course he is most interesting. We have many points of contact and we have many points of difference, and we spend ages talking about so many things that I wonder why I can't bundle up all the great people I meet, day in day out, and have them in some kind of library, so I can get to know them properly, select them from the shelf, use their wisdom, steal their stories.
But we must not be distracted by jewels like this chap, we have to head north. To this end, another great breakfast ensues and then we have to face the terrible moment when Bartelt says goodbye to his favourite cafe of all time. I know it's okay because we'll be at his next favourite cafe of all time somewhere else soon, but for now his grief is real: he knows he will never feel like this again about a cafe.
This particular favourite cafe of all time is situated by a disused quarry which is eerily beautiful and, as it's not actually raining today, I get some nice shots of it. He gets some nice shots of it too. We get the same nice shots and, as ever, his are better because he has a better camera and, ultimately, because he loves a bit of photoshop. Me? I'm too impatient to bother with that - and technically inept, and lacking in visual skill......, so I just stick them on Facebook so my mother that I'm still alive.... or at least was alive at time of posting.
I'm aware how much more my mother worries about mine and my brother's welfare since my sister's murder than she did before, and I understand that. I have to strike some kind of balance between not sending her wild with anxiety and living my life - luckily she endorses my attempts. And I know how dangerous South Africa's roads are. They are very dangerous, and although driving gives one a very powerful illusion of control, most of what happens on the road is the random blow-out or the unpredictable behaviour of others. Mum does not know we are driving back today, or at least that we are driving back at this time, and I hope to text her later to let her know we've arrived without her having a day's worry about whether we are alive or dead or simply lying in a ditch waiting for death or help.
By some excellent conflagration of lucks -and Bartelt's ability to find his way - we manage to find our hitchhiker's accommodation and then we're speeding out of town. Somehow, for me, the journey back feels far longer than the time it took to drive down. Admittedly, 6 hours is a long time for a Brit to be in a car, but I have only recently driven down here and then there was the epic journey from Cape Town to Johannesburg. Maybe it's too long in the car with my own thoughts, that could be it. My own blinking thoughts and doubts and the knowledge that this time next week, for the first time since 14 January, I will be waking up in Blighty. Not necessarily a bad thing, but a thing nonetheless and I'm starting to question if I have achieved all that I could here, and, inevitably, the answer is no: no I certainly have not and it's because I'm such a misery and so defeatist.
I am, then, delighted to have Jozi interrupt my thoughts at last, and after we have dropped off our passenger we go to the shop to stock Martin up on food. It's getting dark and we manage to persuade an off licence to sell us some wine as we head to Martin's place where we become involved in a bit of a party. Obviously I am going back to my friends' place, but for a while I am caught up in the jollity of Martin's gorgeous sofasurfing place. The three people who join us have been drinking and there is some political debate, into which my teeth sink in a state of delight. There's also a history of big in-fighting in this group, which gradually reveals itself to us. It'll be sad for Bartelt to leave tomorrow as he has become good mates with the guy whose place it is. I do think Martin will come back to Jo'burg, he'll see this guy again, but who knows how and how knows when.
I get back to Peta and Daniel's place and watch a bit of telly, am fed beers by Daniel and I eat. I'm leaving these guys tomorrow as well and I'll miss them, especially because I've got to know Daniel a bit and I'd like to know him more. And because I've reignited my friendship with Peta and it's as easy as ever it was, enriched, I think, by what we've both been through during the decade since we first met. I mean, I know I'll be back to Jozi sometime.... I mean, I will, won't I....?